Not Forgotten

Why is it that it takes a tragedy in your own life to make you realize how hard things have been for others?  I find this especially true with baby loss.  I never in a million years could have understood the deep and utter pain that losing a baby would bring.  I couldn't understand.  I was oblivious to the hurt but also just to how a loss so deep can effect every facet of someone's life.

I've been thinking a lot lately about those days following our loss.  My memory is so vague, but I remember specific moments with different visitors while I was in the hospital.  Several people have later described me as a "deer in headlights."  I just could not process what had just happened to me, to my family, to my body, to my baby.  But I specifically remember one night when our good friends were visiting.  They are no stranger to baby loss--they have had a total of 3 losses.  She looked at me and said "it won't always hurt so bad."  And I have repeated that over and over to myself over this last year.  It is true--time helps, but like her I want my child to be remembered, to not be forgotten.  I want Norah's name spoken.  I want to see it written out.  I want others to recognize her as the beautiful human being that she was, my precious child.

I have become all too acquainted with other families who have lost babies.  There is a strange bond.  I know those parents want their children to be remembered.  I am sure I will leave a name off, but I wanted to type out all the names of babies that I know who have gone too soon....

Norah Rose

Liam

Wyatt

Charlie

Jordyn

Barrett

Hunter

Kathleen

Hudson

Madalyn

Eliza

Gracia

Emma

Gabriel

Michael

Collin
Sebastian
David
Marek
Kellan
Easton
Barrett
Abigail
David
Libby

Jade
Caleb 
Adelyn
Oliver

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